Your day fills with challenges, stress and duty. And yet, this is not who you are. Your day fills with interactions with family, friends, and co-workers. And yet, this is not who you are. Your day fills with fleeting moments of experiences. And yet, this is not who you are.
You bring who you are into whatever it is that you do.
Who might that be?
The better question is, who do you choose to be?
In this moment, you have the power to choose who you express yourself to be. Do you choose to express the stressed out version of yourself? Or do you choose to express the Sacred Observer noticing one's self in the stream of stressful events?
You forget your Diving Nature and your connection to Divine Source. You tend to get caught up in the moments that engulf you rather than allowing yourself to embrace what is important, true, and valuable.
Yes, those deadlines are important. Yes, those relationships are important. Yes, those moments are important. Yet, so are you.
Remember to remember yourself as you journey through your life. Create moments of clarity and moments of appreciation of beauty to grace your day - each day.
Then, the complaining and the energy draining experiences merely wash over you, not through you. Allow Spirit to flow to you. Rather than being drowned in stress, you become flooded in Peace, Love, and Compassion. Balance returns.
We embrace you as you journey through life with a renewed spirit.
You are more powerful than you know. You can change your mind and with it your intent. You can have a change of heart and with it a shift in consciousness.
These changes create ripples of change throughout the Universe. You may not feel the impact of one little change, and yet it is the beginning of a huge shift in consciousness.
Our concern for you is that you tend to stay stuck when you'd rather move forward. Those old patterns, once established, hold an anchor of energy. This is a good thing! This keeps you stable as you grow and learn.
However, when the time comes to lift anchor and set sail, the will gets caught in same-ness hypnosis. Today bleeds into tomorrow and soon many tomorrows flow by. This is not getting into the flow we speak of! This is the standing still while the journey flows around you. We prefer you step into the flow and allow the flow to carry you to a new perspective - a new point of view - a new existence.
As you move into a new level of awareness, you expand that awareness and you set a new vibration into motion in the physical plane and in the Etherial Realms.
When you bring your sacred awareness into the process, everything shifts into a sacred energy. There are many things in your awareness right now that are not sacred. Bring a new sacred awareness into and onto that experience and things shift toward the greater good.
This frees you to be more authentic and more at ease in your own world.
Welcome this new world and move freely into this new level of flow. Life uplifts you more and you awaken more deeply into the truth of who you really are.
We uplift you as you find footing in this new level of awareness. Greater power awaits you.
So, my brother and I just got back from a workshop we attended together. It was about meditations to improve intuition. Have you heard of Jose Silva? It was a Mind-Valley class based upon Silva’s work.
The class was pretty cool. Well, all except the red folding metal chairs. (Yikes!) As we were leaving Seattle for our 3 ½ hour drive home, we chatted about the class and what we got out of it. That’s a great way to retain the information received from any class – talk about it right away.
I did have one thing that I just didn’t care for. At one point the presenters started talking about all the important or famous people that have taken these classes. I shut down pretty darn fast when that starts to happen. Well, my brother said he really LIKED that part! It helped him to make it real to recognize who also participated.
Well isn’t that crazy!
The very thing that annoyed me was the very thing he needed!
People are so weird, are we not?
If I hadn’t mentioned my reaction, I would still have gotten stuck in the fact that the “name-dropping” was uncomfortable for me. Now I can see that it may not fit for me, but is important to others! I get to get over myself about that. I get to shift my perception and move into a more expansive point of view!
Makes me wonder where else I’ve gotten stuck in my own preferences and haven’t allowed for the preferences of others. I just automatically assume others are just like me.
During the processes for the class, my brother and I had opposite skill sets. One part of the processes I did really well and one part he did really well. One part he thought had great value while I got a bit bored.
Even though we had totally different responses to the workshop, we both enjoyed it and got a lot out of it.
The lesson for me here is not getting backed up because I don’t prefer something a certain way. It’s also a heads up for me to vary my teaching techniques a bit more. Hmmm. Lots to ponder about that!
Because I care about my brother, I could accept his perspective with loving awareness. If it was someone else, would I be more likely to criticize
or reject them because they perceived things differently? I hope not, not so sure! My opinions feel really right to me and really strong to me. I’m grateful this opportunity showed up to teach me yet another level of acceptance and inclusion.
I don’t have to agree with my brother. In fact, it would be destructive for me to dismiss my opinion and accept his, just because he said that’s how it is for him. I get to have my own views and opinions. I just don’t get to expect others to think or feel that same way.
In my first marriage, I would have doubted myself and felt as if my feelings and ideas were wrong. I would have tried to make myself like something that didn’t fit for me. Not only would that make me unhappy, it would make me fake – untrue to myself. Not worth it.
If someone attempts to push their opinions upon you, you can recognize that you view things differently. That’s wonderful! At the same time, hold to your own space and awareness. I didn’t try to make my brother dislike the naming-of-names. In turn, he didn’t mock me for not liking that. We just found it really amusing.
Let’s find more opportunities for amusement and less opportunities for argument.
Where you are and where you want to be exist simultaneously in time. How you are and how you want to be also exist simultaneously in time.
Because you don't know what you want, variations of your possible intentions exist simultaneously in time. The variety in no way lessens the possibility of the outcome. Any outcome has the same energetic possibility held in a space in time.
You get to choose based upon your trajectory from here. What you've already decided about yourself and your journey aligns you with a distinct possibility for your future. The choices you make right now, the shifts you make right now, the gratitude you express right now . . . these things impact the future that unfolds for you.
Whatever you choose for yourself merely reflects the lessons and the challenges your soul requires for now. No shame or blame or fear of the outcome. Just know that choice of attitude and attention along with gratitude and grace guides the flow from one moment to the next.
Choose gratitude and choose love first. Everything else will fall into place. Your first gratitude might be being grateful that you have the right to choose.
We are grateful for you and your bright spirit of free-will that allows you so many bright futures!
So, I got my feelings hurt this morning. I was sharing something I thought was important and the person I was talking to interrupted me to tell me about something else. I let it slide knowing that they had a lot on their mind. When they did it a second time in our conversation, I felt hurt.
We concluded our talk and went on about our day.
I felt bummed out. I felt mad that I wasn’t listened to. I felt disappointed that something I was excited about was discarded so easily by someone I cared about. I felt irritated for all the times I listened to things they had to say whether I was directly interested or not.
I began to stew. My brain brought up all the other times this person has done this very thing!
Then I stopped myself short. This was getting me nowhere but in a dark spiral downward. No! Not going there!
I could call a friend who would side with me and support me in my sorrow. That would be really nice, but that would also keep me stuck there.
I could call another friend who would tell me to get over it. That might be a good idea, but certainly wouldn’t make me feel any better. And truth be known, I didn’t want to get over it! It hurt!
What other choice might I have?
I could find a way to shift . . . couldn’t I?
I did some writing about a totally different subject. That got me a bit of distance from the hurt feelings. I sat out in the sun for a bit and did some reading. That got me a bit more distance from the hurt feelings. I was taking care of myself. Nurturing myself.
Then I got to thinking about it again from a different perspective – a nurtured perspective. I got to thinking about where the other person was and the difficulty that was weighing on them. They whole heart and mind was consumed with their current challenge. Their slighting me had nothing to do with me. I could take their slight personally or I could see it for what it really was – their own pain taking over their awareness.
In that moment, I decided to recognize their pain and their challenge with compassion. All of a sudden, my own hurt feelings vanished. I began to consider how I might be more supportive of them. I also began to remember all the times they were supportive of me! I had forgotten! My feeling hurt had blinded me from that truth!!
My decision to recognize them with compassion totally eliminated the pain I had been feeling. It was GONE!!
What a huge relief!
I was then able to joyfully begin writing this to you. What a huge shift!
I think this shift is called forgiveness
You crave assurance that you are right or that you are on the right path. This assurance can only come from the journey itself!
You may feel insecure about your journey, and yet the journey itself teaches you. The process of discovery happens when you allow yourself the process of discovery.
Wisdom comes from life experiences and from willingness to welcome every step along the way. Even when life feels uncomfortable, there is great learning happening! Learn and move on. Staying stuck in the suffering is optional. The moving on allows you the journey on your sacred path.
If there is suffering, you might be learning the incorrect lesson. You might be attempting to exert your will over that which is not your part to do. You cannot change another person or change the laws of Universe. However, within those laws of Universe abide the power to change one's self for a greater good.
There abides great wisdom in living in the here and now . . . living in the present and The Presence. This is not existing, but rather living with awareness and attention. Without awareness and attention; mindfulness and observation, resistance and ego gets a foothold. These attributes block the angelic assistance that is offered and the love and peace that abides within the soul.
Open your eyes, your heart, your soul and walk the path with trust and gratitude - the wellsprings of blessings flow to you in this state of being.
Prior to my spiritual awakening, I was busy, busy, busy. Never really felt much of anything, just hurried and harried through stress-filled days. Once I began to take stock of my life, began to cherish each moment, and find a deeper more meaningful connection with Spirit I began to feel overloaded. I would walk into a restaurant and as I passed each table or booth I would feel what each and every person was feeling. Angry, sad, hungry, full, lonely, frustrated, aching back, sore shoulder, headache, et. al. Dizzying to say the least!
I came to realize that I was an Empath. An Empath is one who heals by taking on the hurts and suffering of another to discharge or release. An Empath takes on the pain of another and once that pain is within them, they transform it, clear it, and dispose of it in some way. Without knowing how to release that energetic information could take me days to feel better.
An Empath is ENERGETICALLY PROGRAMMED to take pain and suffering from others. Empaths often cannot watch movies or TV shows or read books that portray betrayal, or criticism, or man's inhumanity to man. We just take it all in – we're just like an energetic Bounty paper towel - the quicker picker up-er! The paper towel sucks up the water because the dry part draws the wet into itself. It is its destiny. It is the destiny of an Empath is to create balance. We desire the sad to be happy or at least neutral. We desire the pain to be clear. We desire the suffering to be soothed. We draw anything out of balance into ourselves!
"But why me, God?! I don't want to be this way! I have other things that I want to do with my life. I want to let other people have their own stuff. Why do I take it on? Why?" Because you can. Not everyone can. You can - you do. Just like you can have blue eyes or curly hair or a green thumb or an ear for music. Trying to be what we are not only confounds the issue. Being the best of who and what we are will allow us to move through the energetic process more easily. So if you're ticked off at Spirit for being an Empath, you might want to have an Empath ease that away from you! ‘Cause baby you got it! That doesn't mean that you have to spend every waking minute processing the suffering of others. It does mean that you get to learn to use the process so you can call upon it when necessary.
"Can a person who is not an Empath become one?" I believe with intent we can do that. However, if you are not an Empath, you may have an easier way to do healings than taking it physically into your being. Being an Empath is not the easiest way to go, not the fastest form of healing, yet it can be the most profound way of healing. For, by really feeling what another person feels or what another
person is experiencing that allows us to be more compassionate and emotionally involved with the healing process.
When we share with someone that we hurt in our left knee and their left knee is hurting, the one being healed acknowledges and validates that YOUR left knee is hurting. By so doing the one being healed dis-associates themselves from their own pain and that is a root beginning of the healing process. As they sense that you feel their pain, they no longer have to carry it alone. They knowingly or unknowingly share their suffering. In that sharing they give themselves permission to let go of the suffering. The letting go process creates a pathway to healing. In our culture we are programmed to be on the defense of others dumping on us or expecting something from us. Getting the person being healed to allow you to suffer with and for them opens a connection, a doorway to surrender. With surrender, resistance drops. As resistance drops, healing energy can flow. That shared experience leads to an increase of the healing energetic flow. Healing begins.
"What about emotional pain? Does it go to the left knee?" A pain may be drawn into any part of the body or into an energy field just outside the area to which it corresponds. You've possibly seen me reach into someone's aura and remove something or move something around. I'm reshaping distorted energy or removing blocked energy in the auric/energetic field. For example: betrayal can lodge itself in a corresponding area in the 3rd eye or hover over the 3rd eye which discerns truth or in the back (stabbed in the back) or the heart space where trust abides or in the throat where speaking one's truth resides. Or hover over any of those areas. The energetic information regarding an emotional abuse can lodge in the muscle tissues as the muscles take action – in an abuse situation, often inaction is the only means of survival. Old energetic information locked in the muscles is the pathology of fibromyalgia - pain in the muscle tissue. I believe that the increase of so many people with fibromyalgia or CFIDS is a result of one's own issues and Empathic energy reception without a way to release it.
No shame or blame here. The person that is hurting may not intentionally be sending pain to an Empath. Remember, they (we) are programmed to pick it up. No shame or blame here for carrying that pain. Without the tools to release that energy, what else could one do with it, except store it?
"So, how do we release this Energetic Information?" There are probably as many ways to release this Energetic Information as there are Empaths. Every Empath learns in their own way to filter suffering and/or to release it. I'll share with you some techniques that have worked for me and for some other Empaths that I know. Try them all and see what works for you. After trying these suggestions, you may
find a way that works even better! Let me know and I'll add it to the list for others to try.
First, it is important to note that we can find it difficult to let go of this Energetic Information. We feel so RESPONSIBLE. That may be past life stuff or our history imposing itself upon us. We have to MAKE that healing happen. We are in charge of that person's healing . . . this is a V8 moment – reminds me of the old commercial where the guy slaps himself up-side-the-head and says, "I could have had a V8!"
We are the conduit - not the Source. We are the instrument - not the Musician. Here-in lies the rub. It can be difficult to allow Spirit to move through us. Our culture has the expectation "do it yourself!" The most powerful word in the spiritually awakened person's language is . . . ALLOW. I was struggling with the communion cups one Sunday, like I always struggled with the communion cups. They just stick together and once the get stuck it is really frustrating trying to rip them apart. It's kind of like those Chinese finger locks. Trying to hurry to set up for services, I became very impatient with myself and those cups! I took a deep breath and out loud said the word ALLOW. Those cups just popped apart! I don't know why that word came to me just then. I don't know why I said it out loud. All I know is the resistance within me came away from me and I was able to accomplish what was important for the moment. This same process will work for anything! My keys were jumbled together and I couldn't get to the one I wanted. Allow! The keys released. When we practice ALLOW! in our everyday life, then the ALLOW! becomes easy in the healing process.
Once we've got ALLOW, we can go to the next step. Be the observer and see where the energy comes in to your energy field. You can control its entry point with your intent once you can observe and be aware. Until then it may be impossible to know where the stuff comes in - we just know it's there and it's got to go! So here are a few ways to release energetic information from the body or the energy field.
*Here's one of my favorites: "The Psychic Flush"
Rub your hands together and once the energy has built up, touch an inanimate object like a chair or a table or a wall. Just like when we were kids shuffling across a rug and zapping an unsuspecting sibling, this process discharges energetic static from our energy field. You'll feel a whoosh of energy and a release of clutter/static from your body. You can do this at work without anyone really knowing what you're doing. Try it in a meeting when things are getting "thick." Whoosh! All the discomfort will clear! It's a cool trick!
*Here's another favorite: "The Psychic Drain"
Try putting your hands out away from your body, shaking them gently and ALLOW the energy to drain out of your fingertips into the earth where it can be healed, changed, transformed, and renewed by the Earth/Spirit into usable energy.
*For energy stuck deeply into the body - "Pull & Release"
Grab into your energy field with your hand and imagine that you are grabbing all the pain and stuck energy. Once you have a grip on it, give it a little tug to loosen it. Then yank it out of there. You'll feel it release. Let it fall away or float away from your hands or do the "Psychic Drain."
*Powerful tool for energy stuck deeply into the body - "Transmute & Clear"
Look into yourself to see the energy that is blocked. You may be able to do this by actually looking into yourself, or you may do this in your imagination. However that energy looks to you, be aware of it. Ask for Spiritual energy to come to you and transmute that energy block into a release-able form. You may have an idea of what form you would like it to transform into or you may just allow Spirit to transform it as required. I imagine the energy transmuting into energetic spirals of energy that carry the clutter as tiny particles. Those spirals of energy then exit the body with the outermost point of light escaping first and the rest spiraling out and spinning away into the universe.
*Transmute Color & Clear
Often Empaths will work in a helping or service environment. The compassionate heart of the Empath will slurp up any negative, hurtful, or harmful energy into the body. The Empath is programmed to do so. The key is to release it, let it go. I’ve found that by seeing the energy that I’ve slurped up as a color, I can more easily let the energy go. If the energy seems dark or gray or smoky or shadowy or dim, I can transform the energy into a brighter, clearer color and then it is very easy to just see that color moving out of my body. It is also easier to sweep away a happy yellow than it is a muddy tan. The happy yellow is light and moves easily in response to my will – my direction. The muddy, or cloudy color is sticky and resistant. So envision any energy that you may have picked up along the way. See what color it is. See where it might be residing in your physical form. Ask Spirit, the angels or your guides to change its color into something lighter and brighter. Then you can mentally or physically sweep yourself and the color will sweep away effortlessly. Transmute the color of the unwanted energy into a brighter color or one of higher vibration. Once the color has brightened, brush it out of your body or breathe it out of your energy field, or sweep it away from you, or ground it out into the Earth. Find the way that works best for you.
Know this!! As you are transmuting the color within your own form, the similar energy that resides within the person that carried it previously is also being changed. They will experience a healing as a result of your efforts.
The process in a nutshell: see the dense, hurting color; ask for assistance in changing the color; sweep the color away out of your physical form. It’s just energy and cannot stick to anyone in its transmuted form. The energy can then be usable energy. It can assist plants in growing and children in playing and be useful in any number of ways. Try it!
*Another powerful tool for release - "Lay it at Jesus Feet"
Whether on a conscious level or not, some Empaths feel that God / Spirit / Source / The Universe doesn't deserve that pain so unknowingly attempt to protect Spirit from that pain and continue to hang on to the energetic block. It's what we do - absorb pain! The Christian faith can be really helpful in this instance. The Christian belief system holds that Jesus suffered and died once for all beings and in those moments of suffering he carried the suffering of everyone for all time. Hence the thought form, "By his stripes (suffering) we are healed." This allows the Empath the opportunity to take any and all pain and suffering to that point in time and attach it on the cross, or lay it at Jesus' feet. This can be done a couple of ways.
A.) In the imagination, allow yourself to travel back in time. While standing at the foot of the cross, allow Jesus to take the pain/blocked energy from you. See the kindness in his eyes. Feel the compassion. Know that you are doing the right thing. This is His destiny. This is what he came to do. He is the Ultimate Empath.
B.) Take that same mental journey back in time. Hold the energy out towards Him, and let it be absorbed by Jesus.
C.) Take that same mental journey and place your hands on the cross just below Jesus' feet. Similar to a psychic flush, you will feel the whoosh of the release.
Along those same lines, you can take the energy to another time and place of spiritual significance for you and leave it there. Take care to not take energy to another dimension as they have their own stuff to deal with. Choose a place and time before you began the journey.
It can take concerted conscious effort to release the Energetic Information we take on when it parallels our own personal experiences. Those energies find familiar territory and attempt to take up residence. If you are susceptible to a backache and are healing someone with a backache, it could take concerted effort to not let the energy get to your own back before you can release it. With your intent, keep it
in your hands or hold it in your aura or energy field. If that blocked energy finds its way to the common suffering point, you get to do another healing on yourself! Perhaps we have not healed ourselves of an injury or an injustice. The other's healing may be a way in which we create our own healing - perhaps it’s just the healing we’ve been waiting for.
Here is a big "Ooooops up side the head" - that other person's suffering may be because Spirit feels it is time for YOU to be healed. Your paths have crossed at just this right time so you can be free of some pain. What a blessing! We deal with our own betrayal when we can take on and release someone else's betrayal.
There is sooooooo much more I could share on this subject, yet I feel this is enough (maybe more than enough) to digest at this point in time. Learning to FILTER the energetic information before taking it on can be useful - another topic for another day. It is my sincere hope that this information helps your journey as an Empath.
As you approach today's activities, notice your state of being. Is your mind rushed? Is your body tired? Are your emotions running high? These states of being do not assist you. They are byproducts of stress and daily life that bleed from one activity to another.
Before beginning a new activity, find ways to get clear. Yes, we know that you attempt to do many things at once . . . yet, in reality only one task occupies your awareness at a time.
Get clear by taking a few deep breaths. Say to yourself, "This is now." Shift your visual focus to a faraway object and then return to the task at hand. Each of these things shifts the energy fields to support you in your next task.
Without this shift it is as if you drag the energetic structure of one task with you into the next. That can be exhausting claiming and carrying unnecessary energetic constructs with you. Shifting focus only takes a moment, but can make a huge difference in your day and in your actions.
Let's say you are washing dishes and need to shift to driving your car. The energy construct of water registers in your energy field while you are washing dishes. You are not aware of it, yet it exists in the etherial realms to assist you in your task. The dishes themselves hold energetic structure. Especially if they were gifted to you by your grandmother or if there is a chip that bothers you. That energetic construct supports your dishwashing efforts by supporting you. However, once you get into your vehicle and begin to drive, your dishwashing constructs no longer serve. They clutter.
Take just a moment to clear and shift between activities and you'll find you have more energy and ease of accomplishing the task at hand.
Side benefit becomes a clearer mind, calmer soul, and a brighter intent.
Notice now and see what energy constructs that are not in use might be still engaged in your energy field. Sweep and clear or speak and clear. This simplifies and energizes everything you do.
You are welcome.
Phil and I finally were able to take the dog for a walk down by the river at Bateman Island. We experienced a few slushy areas and some parts of the trail still covered in ice and snow. (By the time you read this you will think—what snow? It’s melting fast!) At one point, I slipped on ice and nearly took a tumble. I staggered a bit before Phil and I connected and I grabbed a hold of him.
Isn’t that how it is? We go along just fine and only when we lose our balance do we reach out to others. Thank goodness Phil was there to stabilize me. He didn’t need to pick me up and carry me. He didn’t need to walk for me, he just offered stability that saved the day. That would have been a hard fall on the frozen ground.
Who do you reach out to when you are hurting? Is it someone who offers stability or someone who tries to fix it for you? Is it someone that is really there for you or someone that finds ways to need you instead? Do you stagger around trying to regain your balance by yourself?
Maybe you have a friend in deed or maybe you find ways to rely upon Divine Assistance for stability and strength. Or maybe you do both. Going it alone is certainly a lot harder.
Once I stabilized and grabbed a hold of Phil he said, “What are you doing!?” I replied, “Nearly falling, of course!” We had a good laugh about that. One doesn’t plan to slip or lose their balance. Life happens. Slips happen. Sometimes we don’t even know we are out of balance until we are on our backsides nursing bruises and a wounded pride.
What is balance? Balance is that delightful space where we take in life- it’s joys and beauty without a second thought. We appreciate the birds’ singing and the warm sun. We find gratitude for the small things and appreciate the love and kindness in our lives.
When we are out of balance, nothing matters except that which is pulling us down. Whatever situation we find ourselves takes all our attention. When my feet started to slip out from under me, I couldn’t care less if the sun was warm nor could I hear the song birds. Yet once I regained my footing, I could notice those things again.
Often even after we’ve regained our footing, we stop noticing. We stop listening. We guard ourselves. We hold back. We stop moving forward. We discover someone is untrustworthy, so we stop trusting. We get hurt and we shut down our feelings.
How can we restore balance more quickly? Fast answer—do something creative or get out in nature. That shift into creativity or that sense of nature resets our inner and spiritual balance. Then we can move forward confidently—in balance— while enjoying life’s majesty within life’s ordinary moments.
A new day is dawning for you.
Not just a new physical day with the sun rising in the sky, but a new dawning of awareness with your insight expanding in the sky of your mind.
You are evolving. Even the cells in your body do not remain the same and your energetic self evolves as well. With each new level of awareness, a new energy is deposited down into your DNA - transforming you. Your responses to life will not be the same. Your feelings will harmonize with abundance and joy. Your strengths will strengthen and your weaknesses will fade.
You already have invested the effort, now allow this change to take place. Grudges, past hurts, and old sorrows coupled with regrets lock you into your previous self. Your suffering self.
You are ready to move beyond suffering. Challenges in life will happen - that is the way of living. Yet, you will not suffer as a result. There will be an uplifting and a cherishing that will bless you and carry you through any discomfort.
This allows you to rise above the old and shift into the new. The new you is expansive. The new you is loving with clear, safe boundaries. The new you is blessed and is a blessing. The new you is here.
Welcome the new you now. The new you holds an amazing future before you.
We await you there.