You see with your eyes and judge with your mind.
We ask you to look, for now, with your heart-of-hearts at everything and everyone around you. Then rather than judgment, allow yourself to flow into the consciousness of compassion.
When you observe with your heart-of-hearts, you "see" or perceive things differently than when you look with your eyes and your judgments.
Your heart-of-hearts knows and identifies expanded awareness rather than failings and short-comings. This knowing allows you to see the pain behind the suffering behind the antagonism and cruelty that you abhor. This in no way dismisses the cruelty nor ignores that behavior. Rather, this insight refuses to feed that cruelty with judgment and condemnation and assists that behavior into change - true change. Transformation actually.
Just as you have transformed and no longer are the person you once were, others have the power to change as well. You can choose to condemn and hate or you can choose to uplift and shift. By uplifting the person - even someone who is hurting and acting in a cruel manner - you uplift them out of the pain for a split second and they shall be given an opportunity to notice and shift. Divine Source grants this moment of awareness when you support higher consciousness with love.
Let us help you further with this. When you see something that creates a negative feeling within, notice this situation with your higher consciousness - your expanded awareness. Then, for just a moment, apply deep compassion to the HEART of that person - their heart-of-hearts. This in no way condones their behavior - and it in no way condemns it either. For just a moment in your time-space, hold their heart-of-hearts in the awareness of compassion.
This opens a window of opportunity for Divine Love to enter and work it's magic. Though it's not really magic.
Give this moment of compassion into their heart-of-hearts and notice what it does to your heart-of-hearts! Magic!
We perceive this magic happening and see profound results!
We rejoice in this!
A few years ago I had an online radio show entitled Step Up. The theme of the show was stepping into your intuition and your spiritual awareness. I view our spiritual path as a gentle upward journey where we are better today than we were yesterday. Our choices are more spirit centered and Spirit Connected with each step.
Imagine my surprise when I’ve been led to step back and step away from a physical practice.
A few years ago, a health issue manifested itself in a big way. I found a list of supplements that slowly brought my health around through daily consumption. I was so glad to find these supplements and grateful for regaining a measure of health.
Recently, I found myself spiraling down health-wise again. I couldn’t seem to shake it and I couldn’t seem to get any better.
One day I was running late and “forgot” to take my supplements before I left the house. I planned on taking them as soon as I got home. Well, after getting home, I had several major distractions and missed taking those things all day. The next day, Phil noticed that I looked better. I didn’t really feel much better, but I did feel a bit better. Not connecting the dots yet, I took my supplements as usual that morning. Sure enough, I didn’t feel well again.
Several days later, I ran out the door without those supplements again and got distracted and missed another whole day without them. Sure as shootin’, I felt better again.
Phil notice again.
Could the supplements that saved my life be now causing me distress??!!??
How could this be?!?
Well, I just couldn’t believe it and resumed taking the supplements again. You guessed it . . . I felt badly again. Brain fog and severe fatigue.
Well. For cryin’ out loud. I must say I experienced a great deal of resistance at stepping back from utilizing those supplements. Until I realized that I’d been doing healings on myself for months now. I’d discovered or had been Spirit guided in some new visualizations that really seemed powerful.
So, I have this drawer in the kitchen that is full of supplements. I might need this or that here and there, but for now, I can let go of having to take a handful of those things.
My heart vacillates between been grateful and resistant. I allow myself gratitude for the supplements that supported me for so long and blessed me along the way. At the same time I allow myself to be resistant in stepping away from them and grant myself peace as I ease out of their use. This in turn allows me gratitude for a new measure of health that no longer needs them.
So, too, I allow myself to step back and step away from friendships and relationships that no longer serve. Certainly, there may be friends that I couldn’t have gotten this far without, yet our paths no longer converge and I get to step away with gratitude. Gratitude for what we had and gratitude that I can move on.
I used to feel that way about soda pop. When I was experiencing an abusive situation and dire financial circumstances, I allowed myself one bottle of soda pop a week. I could nurse a bottle of cola for days. It would be flat, but it was my prop. It got me through. Long after I found safety and financial footing, I still clung to that pop. I could afford more than one a week, so I did. I felt such bliss with each sip. It wasn’t just the taste, it was the taste of freedom that it granted me.
Years later, I was able to step back and walk away from soda pop. Now every once in a while I might choose to have one. Doesn’t taste the same and I don’t get the same blissful feeling. I’ve stepped away from that emotional crutch. I can hold gratitude for how it got me through the difficult times, and hold even greater gratitude that I don’t put that stuff in my body very often. I am gratefully free to choose.
I had to step back first – notice it. See how it worked or didn’t work in my life. Then make a new choice and step away.
What might you be hanging on to? Does it really serve you now or do you feel attached by the memory of survival? Step back. Take a look. Notice how your life is different now. When you are ready, step away. Set yourself free.
The tear pooled in my eye and hesitated there for a moment. Then, it began to fall, gently sliding down my face.
I decided in that moment that this is the last tear. The last tear to fall as a result of your comments or your disdain.
Love, as close as family, extends beyond approval or disapproval. When I needed your encouragement and you sat silent. I felt rejected and tears fell. When I needed your reassurance when I felt weak, you demanded attention for your own hurts. I felt rejected and tears fell. When I needed to clear the air, you projected your own pain onto me demanding me to change to make you happy. I felt unheard and tears fell. When I succeeded and wanted joyous celebration with me, you belittled my success. I felt unworthy and tears fell.
Yet, this is the last tear.
Not that I choose to shut down. No. Shutting down would do me more harm than good. Not that I choose to put shields up to protect myself. No. Shields cannot protect me in this.
I choose to see you from a different perspective. Rather than seeing you as me – a wounded me, a broken me – I choose to see you in truth. Your wounds dictate your actions and reactions to me. Your pain commands you to withhold love, appreciation, and acknowledgement. You cannot yet be any other way.
I choose to see this without judgement. In fact, I choose to see you with a heart of compassion. I observe you and the pain constricting you with deep empathy.
This last tear dries on my skin, evaporating into the air that surrounds it. My need for your approval and acceptance evaporates with it. I expected you to respond to me in a way that fulfilled my needs. Now, I release you from that expectation. I’m free.
I’m free to encourage myself. I’m free to console myself. I’m free to acknowledge my own successes. I’m free to negotiate this life without the need for outside approval. This inner approval resides within my own bright heart. This inner approval finds confirmation from Divine Source who uplifts and supports me while offering me guidance and comfort.
Certainly, I will cry again. Sorrows and disappointments happen. Loss and grief live alongside a fulfilled life. Yet, this is the last tear that falls for expecting you to be whom you are not. I finally understand. With a bright heart, I finally release . . .
This Last Tear.
(If you enjoyed this blog you might also like the Ancient One’s message entitled “The Power of Serenity”)
I recently learned a valuable lesson from my brother’s dog. Yes, from a dog.
Phil and I took our new, 6 month old Delilah for a walk with my brother, Joe, and his dog Simon. Simon, a Shih tzu, is about 4 years old.
Simon loves the game of chase! He loves to zoom around evading the other dog while making impossible turns and spins. It’s just adorable to watch. Simon loved to play this game with our old Molly. Molly loved it, too and nearly caught him a couple of times. Though mostly Simon left Molly in the dust. Literally . . . lots of dust in the dry season.
Simon’s experience with Delilah (Lilah) held a different experience for him. Lilah is fast and young, so she bowled Simon over a couple of times. Though we tried to restrict Lilah, she was too fast for us to react.
So, here’s the lesson I learned from little Simon . . . you ready for this?
He just stopped.
He stopped running. He stopped allowing Lilah to chase him. Without any movement from Simon, Lilah also slowed down. Then, Simon darted after Lilah! Lilah jumped into a full run and the sport was off again this time with Simon chasing Lilah! They ran through the tall grass and jumped over branches. When Lilah got ahead and doubled back on Simon, Simon stopped again. Once Lilah was again out in front, Simon took off and more running ensued.
Simon didn’t like being bowled over and we were unable to protect him. He didn’t run away. He didn’t bark or growl, he just stood still.
So what did I learn from Simon?
To just stop.
If people aren’t treating me with respect or they are getting a bit pushy, just stop. Don’t talk, don’t engage. Just stop and wait. Once things are respectful again, go have fun! Full enthusiasm!
If life is full of struggle and I feel like I’m being bowled over by life, just stop. Stand still. Wait.
That’s so hard to do! I want to fix it. Change it. Make things the way I want them to be. I think I want control. But control is an illusion. What I really want is cooperation, respect, joy and living life full out!
Things will shift. Things will change. That’s the Law of Impermanence. Everything changes. Instead of Simon being chased, he changed the game so he was the one doing
the chasing. He changed. He still had fun! Lilah and he had a great time. Simon stopped. Simon changed. The game changed. And with a subtle shift, the game was on and fun was had by all!
Maybe it’s time to stop for a bit. See where there might be someone stepping on toes. Pray for insights to change the dynamic. Pray for insights to change the direction. Try something new.
Thank you, little Simon, for such a BIG lesson!
As a New Year unfolds before you, we encourage you to release yesterday's disappointments and sorrows while claiming yesterday's insights and understandings. You can release and claim at the same time.
The old scaffolding of shame and fear can fall away effortlessly. The new scaffolding of insight and understanding can and will support your next steps.
Know that as you release, the Divine Source who is all Love and Light stands ready to catch this unwanted energy. With Love, this energy will be received and transmuted into love. . . that is what Love does. Love changes things.
What you might perceive as loss or sorrow or difficulty is divinely perceived as change and is received with tenderness. This tenderness shifts the energetic structure of old experiences and allows them to flow through time and away from you and your awareness.
You may be tempted to call these things back to your awareness to suffer over them again. This is not necessary, nor is it needful. You may choose to do that anyway. If you make that choice, you can again make the choice to give them to Divine Source - as many times as need be.
At the same time, as you claim new awarenesses and insights about those situations and experiences, Divine Source strengthens you and assist you in the next steps of your journey. This strengthening holds the same tenderness as carries the loss, sorrow, or difficulty.
This tender strengthening allows a greater strength to be bestowed. Strength of this nature holds great power. Power beyond and outside of force. It is tender strength whose call-sign is compassion. Compassion for one's self and for others.
This Divine Compassion becomes the operating system for your words and deeds. May you be blessed by this tender strengthening.
As always, we walk with you and honor you on your sacred path of ascension.
You’ve probably been hearing a lot about gratitude lately. As spiritual power tools go, it ranks among the highest in my book! Right next to prayer. I have a bit of a twist on the process of gratitude I’d like to share with you.
It started when I walked away from a marriage, friends, church and everything familiar. I had never held down a full time job and had to provide for my troubled teenager and I in a new city. The extraction from that marriage was messy to say the least. I had no backbone and had no idea who I was, much less what to do with myself. My teenager was falling down the rabbit hole of addiction and I was barely keeping food on the table. Some days I felt overwhelmed and I wished I could die. Some days I felt glad I was alive and free and had a chance for a better life. Some days I felt both at the same time.
I don’t remember how I got it, but I ended up with an old calendar – one with a pretty picture and positive saying on one side of the page and the week laid out on the other. The dates weren’t accurate because it was from the previous year, but I appreciated the beautiful pictures and the positive sayings a great deal, so I kept it.
Since the days didn’t matter, I began to write down every accomplishment, no matter how small. When I found something to be grateful for, I wrote that in the calendar. Many days in a row were blank. As the weeks and months dragged by, I started over the next year continuing to notice milestones I made . . . getting my own apartment . . . buying my first car . . . These were huge things I never thought I would ever do. I also noted the little things. The little things that made me smile, like a sunbreak in the clouds that seemed to shine down on me just when I needed it the most.
I noticed that as I turned the pages from one year to the next, that I had grown. On days when I felt overwhelmed and lost, I would see an accomplishment I’d made a year ago that I didn’t think I would ever to and I felt encouraged to do what was before me right now. Or I would remember some little gratitude that generated that same sense of gratitude again giving me the strength to look for Grace one more time. I would see the name of someone I appreciated and a kindness they had done for me and I was inspired to be kind yet again.
The most important acknowledgment I noted was during a group counseling session with multiple families whose kids were in the same treatment facility.
My ex and his wife were there along with Phil and I – showing support for our now 16 year old son and his 3rd trip through re-hab. There were about 30 people including the kids in a huge circle and we were doing some sort of activity. I don’t remember the circumstances, nor do I remember the words, but somehow my ex challenged me in a disdainful way in front of all these people. Normally I would have shut up, backed
down, cowered and felt victimized. I don’t remember the words I said, but I do remember that I stood up and spoke my truth with calmness.
The entire room applauded! The ex backed down. In that moment, I had a spiritual spinal implant and overwhelming support as a result. In my calendar, (it was on the 3rd of the month. I don’t even remember which month or which year) I acknowledged the situation that put me at a point of choice and my decision to speak my truth with grace. Had I not had my calendar and the building of my strength that it gave me up to that point, I probably would have caved in one more time.
Acknowledgement is not about pride. It’s not about me being better than someone else. It’s acknowledging a moment of growth. Those acknowledgments become anchor points for the future. Once experienced, we never go back to the way we were. Not really. We may repeat some old behaviors, but the new person we are becoming sees the truth and moves closer to that reality with stronger dedication than before.
Gratitude is the emotional response to acknowledgement. Appreciation is the expression of awareness for another’s kindnesses in our behalf. This too, leads to the feeling of gratitude.
You see, we tend to remember the bad stuff. Researchers call this “negativity bias”. We tend to look for what isn’t working to protect ourselves and keep ourselves from harm. This smallness may feel like we are keeping ourselves safe, but in fact, it’s just keeping us in survival mode. Life is so much more!
I’ve noticed a lot of people lately saying how terrible 2019 was and how they hope 2020 will be better . . . 2019 probably held a lot of growth and beauty that got forgotten due to the negativity bias!
As you look at the close of this year and look to the hope of next year I hope you take the time to take note (literally!) of the people and their kindnesses towards you along with your own accomplishments. As you physically note these and take moments to ponder them, the feelings of gratitude will flow through you. These feelings of gratitude draw to you MORE THINGS FOR WHICH TO BE GRATEFUL!!!!
If you really want to bless your own life, use this powerful tool. I’m including a pdf of a simple Gratitude, Appreciation, and Acknowledgment sheet. Print out 31 of these. One for each day of the month. Make note of your Appreciation and make Acknowledgment of your own breakthrough’s and list opportunities to express Gratitude on that day of the month – any month. From month to month you will see changes and growth. Notice positive feelings expanding and positive experiences building.
I don’t have that old calendar anymore. Several moves later and it was lost to the chaos of change. Yet, the positive energy that practice gave me sustains itself in my awareness.
I’ve created other Gratitude, Appreciation, and Acknowledgment journals over the years and this process still continues to bless me.
Whether you check in with this every morning or every evening or even once in a while, at the end of 2020 you will have a record of positive and powerful experiences to build the rest of our life upon! Bless yourself with this simple tool and you will be richly blessed in all areas of your life.
May it be so!
There is time and there is space for the things that matter. Take the time to choose which things matter for you and space for those things will happen.
That is the difficulty. Finding time to choose what matters to allow within your life.
Within the moment of creation, time began, matter was created all because Divine Source chose to make it so. What are you creating within your life? Chaos? Peace? Strife? Worry? Fear? Joy? Harmony? These expressions of creation happen within your realm of power.
Certainly, there may be circumstances beyond your control. And perhaps those circumstances may be perceived as unfair or unacceptable. Yet, within these challenges arise the wisdom to choose Peace, Joy, and Harmony. These energies allow the mind to rest and release fear and worry. These energies allow the heart to rest and release fear and strife which lead to chaos.
Finding these elemental energies is not as hard as it sounds, Dear One. Peace is already present within your awareness. Joy already exists within your energy field. Harmony extends beyond the heavens and resonates here on Earth.
Once the resisting energies are noticed, they can fall away to reveal the sought after energies of Peace, Joy, and Harmony. Once noticed, these elemental energies expand and surround your being. Then these energies emerge and bless all those around you. With amplified intent (expanded awareness), these energies encircle the world. Even if you do not see immediate results or the results you expect, the energies are doing their work - blessing all who exist on this planet.
So, Dear One, notice when resisting energies arise in your mind and your heart. Within this noticing, you grant yourself time and space. Within this time and space, your awareness expands to release those energies and the elemental energies of Peace, Joy, and Harmony restore themselves to you within this expanded awareness within time and space. Then, your attention blesses those things that matter to you. What a powerful action this is.
We bless you in this.
As this day unfolds, you are living your truth.
Truth is not only the accurate words spoken with a sincere heart, it is the pure actions as a result of a clear heart.
Are you struggling with your day? Take a look at the content of your heart. Is is filled with worry or sorrow?
Sorrow happens as this plane of existence shifts and changes: friends go away; loved ones pass; familiar things change. Sorrow becomes a natural response to these changes. Yet, sorrow carries with it love and sweetness. Sweet memories and the joy of what was. As you move into appreciation for what was, the sorrow mellows into a sweetness that offers support rather than a burden. Seek this sweetness of life and it will be discovered.
Let this sweetness fill your heart and allow you breathing room to just be. In this space of being kindness can emerge. Allow kindness to flow from you and Divine Source will send it back to you. Within this kindness flows the truth being spoken by your life.
Walk in this truth. Live in this truth. Love in this truth. This allows you to see the brilliance in others and to share your own brilliance with the world.
Shine on, Dear One. Shine on!
This light of truth, your light, illuminates the world!
Tis the season to be weary . . . Fa la la la la… Right?
Well, maybe yes and maybe no. We tend to find a million things to do and expect ourselves to do them perfectly. We must find the perfect gifts. We must prepare the perfect treats. We must make the holidays beautiful and happy. Right?
Well, those are our expectations for this time of year. We may not speak them aloud, but there they are! We know no good will come of this, but we forge on with these expectations burning in our hearts and minds.
Certainly, it’s such a blessing to be the one who brings joy to a holiday gathering. Yet, have you noticed? If someone is not in the place of joy, no matter how nice the setting, they will not know joy.
Joy is a matter of choice. I cannot deliver joy and have it received without the willing choice of another to accept it. Perhaps my idea of joy is not exactly fun for them! Maybe they prefer to watch the football game where I would prefer to layout Tarot cards and get all intuitive and stuff. Does that make them wrong or me wrong? Nope. But my happy doesn’t make them happy. Their happy sure doesn’t do anything for me either!
So, this year, I’m going to do my best to be happy. If someone cares to share that happy, that’s great! If they don’t, that’s great, too! Even if someone chooses to be miserable and negative, they get to and I get to hold on to my happy. I don’t need to change them or coerce them into happy. I couldn't do that even if I wanted to. Happy is a choice. Each person’s own personal choice.
I certainly may choose to share some cookies or some treats of some sort. I certainly may choose to spend some time with friends and loved ones. Yet, each person may be going through something I cannot fix . . . Stress at work, family issues, financial woes, health troubles . . . Whatever the situation. I just know that even in the darkest times, people I know have found joy and lived in that joy through that darkness.
Most won’t. Most people prefer to stay stuck and recount their misery. Yet, I don’t have to. I get to decide to be in a place of happy and let them be where ever they choose to be for themselves.
My empathic heart wants to make them stop suffering so that I don’t feel their pain. My spiritual self allows them to be where they are out of respect for their power of choice.
Their relationships, their work, their health is their journey. I can hold sacred ground for them as they walk through difficulty. . If they request assistance in finding happy, I certainly can do that! I can open my heart and embrace them with love. I can help them re-discover what brings them joy by asking them about their flavor of happy. What happy/joy looks like and feels like to them. Maybe they will choose to do those things that bring happy/joy back into their world. (Or maybe they won’t. It’s their choice.)
So, for now, I’ll choose to be happy as best I can and share as much as others will allow. How will you be and express happy?
You are being called.
Into what? You might ask.
Into conscious awareness and into your own life. We see how the stresses of your world pull at you - calling you to avoid your inner strength, your inner truth, and your inner awareness. Sometimes you feel as if you must struggle in order to be happy, yet the struggle drives away that which makes you happy - the inner connection with Divine Source.
Call and re-call your self back to the state of awareness. Make a new choice in this moment to be aware of your true self - your joyous, creative, powerful self. The Universe will then provide opportunities for you to utilize these attributes.
Instead of being stuck in the weariness of sameness and drudgery, you can and will rise into a clearer state of awareness that grants you greater access to those innate qualities you may not currently feel.
The truth of who you are cannot be changed. What changes is our perceptions of that truth. It becomes distorted and overshadowed by fear and stress.
Heed the call!! Break free!!
Allow your creative soul to emerge. You can create for yourself a new perspective and a new life.
We walk with you in this.